Tainted Chicken ...
I wasn't going to, but seeing images today of throngs of people supporting the purveyor of bigot chicken pissed me off.
What the fuck?
Why were you there today?
If you were there because a few mayors made some noise about Chick-fil-A not being welcome in a few cities, we're on the same page. Granted, the mayors didn't actually ban anything, they were just making noise, but in making that noise, they waded into a pool of wrong. We can't deny people legal rights because we don't like someone's speech or behavior.
See what I did there?
I just made my Chick-fil-A argument:
We can't deny people legal rights because we don't like someone's speech or behavior.
Hello, marriage equality, the root of this entire issue.
The reason Dan Cathy's comments set off such a firestorm wasn't because he was one man expressing his opinion but because Chick-fil-A as a corporation – of which Cathy is the head – gives millions of dollars – millions – to anti-gay organizations that actively seek to deny gays the right to marry.
The legal right to marry.
He cites the Bible, but the Bible has nothing to with this argument.
Never mind that his Biblical version of "traditional marriage" doesn't, you know, exist. He's trying to invoke the idea of a "traditional family" but the Bible has some out-there things to say about marriage and none of them are about a mom, a dad, 2.5 kids, and a white picket fence.
All those who like to use the Bible as a shield for their bigotry, please familiarize yourself with the text.
But here's the thing: It doesn't matter if you think it's weird that a man might want to marry a man or a woman might want to marry a woman.
It. Doesn't. Matter.
Legally, there is no justification to deny them that right.
This isn't about the Bible. This isn't about churches wanting to deny gays the chance to get married at an altar. That is another fight for another day.
This is about two people who love each other having the right to get a piece of paper that gives them the same rights that so many others enjoy. Legal rights. That's what this is about. Denying people legal rights.
There is no legal justification for denying them that right.
The Defense of Marriage Act is on its way to being really most sincerely dead.
Because there is no legal justification for it.
So screw Dan Cathy and every single one of his bigot-chicken-loving "friends."
I have many friends who are gay. And the exchanges we've had these past few days have broken my heart. So many of them report that there are people in their lives who say, "I don't care. I'm still going to eat there."
What a kick in the head, to have loved ones and friends say, in effect, "This chicken sandwich is more important to me than your civil rights."
I still remain unable to fathom why so many have such hatred toward gays.
I mean, I understand that it's rooted in fear.
Everything comes down to love or fear.
And the way they're treating gay men and women sure as hell ain't love.
But what are they afraid of?
That a gay person might find them attractive? Trust me, no gay person wants to hit on a bigot.
Or are they afraid that they, themselves, might be gay but they've grown up in environments that have so vilified it that they can never admit who they are, even to themselves?
I have no idea.
But I do know this: Denying others a civil right is wrong.
And I also know this, as someone on Twitter wrote today: The train of marriage equality has left the station and it is not coming back.
Those who continue to root against equality are on the wrong side of history.
Allowing people to be who they are, to love who they love, is a good thing. It is not something to fear.
Chew on that.